The so called "ENABLER"

(I think I may have been mad the day I wrote this..at least two years ago)

In the last month or so, the term "enabler" has been thrown at me. Of course, being ME...I have taken that one word and analyzed the heck out of it. In doing so I have realized a serious flaw in our society. It's the tendency to take a "good trait" and give it a seemingly ugly name.
For the most part, the person who gets termed an "enabler" is a genuinely nice person. They seem to love unconditionally and forgive without holding a grudge. They'll take care of the person who has stabbed them in the back if needed, and make sure the drunk, abusive husband is fed, clothed and tucked safely in bed. I guess "enablers" truly TURN THE OTHER CHEEK. (How disgusting!) Jesus, by today's definition was an enabler.
Now, if society were on the right path and this "psycho babble" people throw around made sense, the term "enabler" would be given to:
*the legislators who make laws that enable able bodied people to sit on their tush and collect a check * the leaders of the lending industry who enabled people to buy homes way beyond their means * the judges who enable heartless criminals to continue killing, raping, and abusing innocent people* planned parenthood for enabling incestuous fathers/uncles to rape young girls and then force them to get rid of their dirty little secret* the unions who enabled auto workers to negotiate themselves out of jobs * the bad doctors who wrecklessly dispense narcotics for a sore toe, enabling a drug addiction * Bar owners who enable under age kids to drink themselves into a stupor * Parents who don't pay attention to anything their teenager is doing , enabling them to get involved with drugs, unsafe/permiscuous sex, and alcohol abuse.....(and the ugly list could go on for days)
I guess my fury over this term really came last week when it was used to describe a person I deem a saint. She never says an unkind word about anyone. She always has a smile on her face despite her world never really being right. She doesn't have a lot in the line of material things and never whines about it. She always praises God for all that she has... However, she also loves, honors, and cherishes a man who verbally abuses her when he drinks. She worries about his safety, health, and emotional well being. She loves her children and does all she can, even when they are ungrateful. She gives of herself to everyone in need. She does not deserve to be reduced to a term as degrading as "ENABLER".
Let's be fair, call the true enablers by their name and call those who fit today's definition of an enabler what they really are......."NICE PEOPLE"...